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You explain the feeling of agoraphobia and anxiety so well. I experienced both in my early twenties and spent years healing myself too.

A lovely piece of writing. I look forward to hearing about the rest of your journey.

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Thank you, Kate! I know you went there, if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't be here today 🙏🏻

I will be forever grateful for your relentless help in Mexico. In my heart forever! ❤️

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I was so excited to see that you had put something on Telegram. I love to read all that call participants right. Thank you for the good cry. First thing in the morning. I have always been attached with cats not always having them, but have a true love for this species and feel that they know what’s going on with you? I have four adult cats right now. One is my familiar, she sleeps with me she talks to me all the time.

I foster kittens trying to make them very friendly and tame as we never know where they have come from. Right now I’ve fostered about 150 cats and feel whole when I have kittens to take care of knowing that we’re going to vet them a good home.

I was an ER nurse for the majority of my career and have done many things now I have a small farm with my cats one dog 20 chickens and a garden that I worked very hard in but does not produce very much.

I lost both my mother and my sister within two weeks in 2021 and that threw me for a loop as I had cared for my mother in my home for the last three years of her life while my sister was fighting gastric cancer five hours away I would travel to see her as often as I could, but I always had to find someone to take care of mother.

I continue to work from home as I have for the past 12 years as a nurse take care of my kittens keep myself very busy and help a friend farm sitting with her horses and goats dogs. Sometimes I think I just continue to stay busy to keep myself from thinking, but it still allows me a lot of times to find myself and it pushes me to continue on when I just feel like quitting.

Thank you for sharing you touched my heart!

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Wow, I can't believe you lost your family within the same time as I did my cats. So you know how heavy that is, also being a cat mom. You should start writing here. I find myself now writing (having the next blog ready to be publish tomorrow) and healing as I write. I will continue posting every Tuesday 9AM ET. This next one coming out tomorrow was profound to write, as I did not realise how much of an epiphany it would give, which I wrote also in it. Next one after that will be another amazing cat story. Which will cause some tears for myself again, But it is therapeutic. You definitely should start writing. I can help you if you like, I have some tool I use to get it coherent. i write everything myself, but it is easy to get it done. It is so powerful and healing to do.

I applaud you for being so strong and for being such an amazing foster mom for the cats. I wished I could do it again, but at the moment I need to focus on healing and when i find so more peace and calm and a proper place to live where they can be outside I may get cats again. I profoundly miss them having around.

Don't quit, start! Trust me, I should be dead many times by now, the cats will keep you going and writing possibly will too and heal! I'll share it if you do! I just started here too. I know i have a channel but still, this is new territory for me and I will share it once you start! Go for it! People need to read our stories cause they all can relate in one form or another

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Thank you I’ve always thought I have a long story to tell, but have never really thought much about how it could be told. I had somebody once offered to write a book about me, but it was in the Circus world which I found myself working with Ringling brothers for five years, and that in itself is a whole story.

I will give it some serious thought and let you know. Thank you for the encouragement. It’s great to know that people care.

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I had the same, people always told me to write a book, I could write 10 books by now, but i start here, it is easier and you can break it down . I'll Dm you about it

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Wow Patricia glad you are recovering and healing. You seem to have a talent for writing, hope you continue to share your story and someday maybe even a book. A road less traveled was one of my favorite book I bought during a very painful divorce. Glad you are home safe and sound. ❤️🙏‼️

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I didn’t even know there was a book called that 😁 Thank you for the feedback! I will definitely continue, the next is already in the making. I’ve just scratched the surface. ❤️🙏🏻 I continue to heal and also, maybe you should start writing too!

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This was one of my favorite quotes in his book…

“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”

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Wow, that is so true! I kind of feel unoriginal now as there is a book with this title and speaks of the same things. I have my next blog ready to launch Tuesday and it talks about something similar. With a story of course. I think i will get that book and read it. Thank you Nancy for letting me know.

This is interesting though. Everything is in the collective consciousness already😅

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Awww, I love that you and your cat had each other! I can't imagine how you felt with the loss! It's so interesting that two times you had two cats that left you so close together. I wonder if something in the movie triggered something in you. All that you went through and now you have so much wisdom to share! 🙏🏼🙌💓😻

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Indeed, it was 3 times actually. But the last two still live, thankfully. I lost another one in my arms in Mexico. Sad story. ❤️

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Cats are so special! They are so hard to loose! ❤️

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Keep going Sis Star 🌟

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Next coming today at your 2 pm

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Patricia, thank you for sharing your story. No one will ever walk in your shoes. That's the hardest part of sharing your life. Hoping others will Awaken from their spell of being taught all the wrong things. Then telling you that you are doing everything wrong. I know you have endless more thoughts and details of everything which happened to give full context. Many of us do share sympathy and a very few understand empathy with your struggles which existed second by second. We're blessed with pets which give us unconditional love. Beautiful souls Ukkie and Pebbles gave you so much. That type of relationship with pets should be shared more often. As too many people buy pets as some kind of social status display. They don't care for them, pet them, play with them, love them. Even complain about them not behaving like a grown human being. How you treat pets is how you treat your fellow human being. You're loving heart is shining on display in this substack. Thank you for reminding us what is important and that we need to find strength to get past our heartbreaking challenges, but never forget the goodness that was experienced.

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Thank you so much for your feedback, I appreciate it a lot 🙏🏻

Animals have always been so close to my heart as they are defenceless. I have so many stories still to come, this was just a broad outline, now I'll get into the details next. Lot's of special cat stories, and some others things that happened throughout my life. I barely scratched the surface here. I just hope that people can take something out of it as it took me a week to write this. But it's therapy too.

And you are right, when it comes to animals and the way some people treat them, it just breaks my heart. We have a responsibility to take for them, just like with children and the elderly. Unfortunately, the world is not perfect. The things i have seen in Mexico alone could cover a whole book. Will get to it eventually :)

Much love and thank you so much for your support, you have no idea how much it is appreciated!

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I so appreciate that you wrote this. Super courageous, and you’re blazing the trail for many people who have a beautiful story to tell, but are afraid to tell it. Not sure I know exactly the definition of agoraphobia, but I’m guessing if it were defined I would have, a kinship with it. My own journey has been a bit mixed in terms of having many in-depth, long-lasting personal relationships, including a 16 year marriage, a couple of kids along the way, lots of dogs, a few cats, some fish, many plants, and still through all of that, far more aloneness than kinship with anyone of those souls that have been such a part of my journey.

You have a beautiful way of expressing loss and the journey of healing and, like Kate, I also look forward to the next installment ❤️‍🔥

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Thank you Johnny! We all have our roads to travel, don’t we!

The definition of agoraphobia is really afraid to go outside due to the fear of panic attacks .

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OK, thank you for the clarification. That’s one I’ve never had, but I do have other forms of crazy.

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It's not a competition haha, but yes, we all do. In fact, the whole world is traumatised in one form or another. Best is to share it and maybe it can help someone. If not, it helps me to write about it

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